Friday, April 25, 2008

What the....

snowballs? We have had lovely weather for the past week or so. 70s, even touching on 80 degrees. Beautiful sunshine, too. And then...the forecast for next week is talking about SNOW. Yes, snow. After this period of blissful, summer-like weather. I can't believe it. I guess we only need .2 inch to break our snowfall record (for the year, i believe)...so i suppose, it would be neat. But, i am done with cold and snow. I rather like my flip flops and no jackets. I hope that the forecast turns out to be wrong and we have another week of beautiful weather. Although, the lack of rainfall is making me a bit nervous...food prices have jumped enough without a lack of rain causing more hardships for farmers. So, i will take rain. With warm temps. Thank you.

I'm getting used to this low fat cooking. Well, the low fat wasn't ever the problem, so much as the low sodium. That eliminates the prepared/packaged foods. I have been going through cookbooks and websites finding new things to make. So far, everything I have made has been met with rave reviews. Even from my husband who is a cholesterol/fat KING. The greasier, fattier, junkier, the better, in his eyes. OF course, he can't really afford to lose any weight...he is quite the bean pole as it is. But, it's still good to eat better. It won't kill him, that's for sure.

I am not looking forward to my spring/summer break from college. At least not too much. I am wondering what I will do with myself. I wish I would have been organized and on the ball so that I could have signed up (and had the funds). It won't happen again, that's for sure. LOL. I am slightly considering a PT summer job. I would like a place that would allow me to have a relatively set schedule though, because the bouncing all around different days/shifts really stresses me out. And I have doing so well with my depression/anxiety that I hate to stir that pot.

Nothing exciting really to report. The kids have been playing outside every day, pretty much all day. Life is just boring, settled and simple out here in the sticks. LOL. We have a graduation dinner tomorrow for Jeremy's brother and his cousin. They are both graduating from college with bachelors degrees. His brother is going to continue on to grad school and his cousin will be looking for work in her field. She is a little older than I am with 2 kids and upcoming wedding...so she has been working already, but now she will be able to find a job in her chosen field that will pay more. The dinner is at Lucky's Steakhouse. Steak doesn't excite me in the least but they do have chicken strips...lol. Horrible, I know. but, I am not into steak. Most people think I'm crazy. Tomorrow, my sister is also having a bday get together for her step son. I won't be able to make it bc it's the same time as the dinner, but she said to send the kids with mom and dad. And tonight Makenneh asked to stay with my cousin Desiree, so that's the plan. My aunt should be here any time to pick the girls up. Sebastian is at my other uncle's house, so i will have no kids for a minute. LOL. I won't know what to do. Sebastian is just visiting though, so he will be home. But he goes to bed by 830 every night, so he will be out soon.

I am rambling. What's new. Hope everyone enjoys their weekend!

Monday, April 21, 2008

87 years

That's how long my grandma has graced this Earth with her presence. Today she celebrates 87 years of life. She is such a strong woman. She has given birth to 13 children. One of those children, a son named Rex, drown when he was a young boy. She survived the loss of a child. She has buried her husband. Yet, she still goes on. She loves flowerbeds, gardening and bird watching. She has hands as soft and gentle as velvet. Hair nearly as white as fresh fallen snow. A soft voice to soothe the worst of fears. She has shoveled snow, hauled wood, kept up a big yard, a home. Up until a few years ago, she did a lot of this herself. She has always amazed me. And I don't doubt, that grandma at 70 could have worked circles around me at 25. Not a doubt in my mind. The woman is strong and determined. So much so, that on Saturday, as she was feeling sick and had swollen ankles and feet (a bad sign for patients with congestive heart failure), she sat there, so sure she was dying. And to show how selfless she is, she prayed to God. She prayed that he would not take her yet, because her daughter (my aunt bev who lives with her to help care for her, the home, etc) can't keep the place up by herself, financially. She prayed, "You can't take me right now. Bev can't run this place on her own right now." Sitting there, thinking death may be near, she was most concerned with leaving my aunt in financial distress. Amazingly (or really, not so amazingly, because God is great), she began to feel better within an hour. When mom told me about this, I teared up. I am not ready for her go. I don't guess we are ever ready. But, I am still suffering the emotional pain of losing Jeremy's grandma. I don't want to go through losing my grandma right now. Of course, as I get older and wiser and she continues to age, I realize that she isn't invincible as I once thought. But, even at 87, she still gets around, she gets out of the house, she still tinkers in the yard with flowers and such, just not to the extent that she once did. She takes it easy more now. But, she certainly has earned that right. So, today, my wish for Grandma is that she have a wonderfully happy birthday, full of bright sunshine and lots of love. And may she have many more to come! I love you, Grandma!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Beautiful weekend

Despite the fact that the forecast had called for rain starting Friday night, I have to say that the weekend was totally gorgeous. We have yet to see rain (although it's quickly approaching) and the temps were in the mid to upper 70s. Hard to remember that it's actually only spring.

Saturday, Jeremy took Makenneh fishing and they actually caught their first fish. Makenneh was so darn excited she had to come home to eat him. That girl ain't right. She leaned over the bucket telling the fish she was going to take him home and put him in the oven. Most kids, especially girls, get grossed out when they realize that cows are where we get our meat from. not this kid. She realizes where her food comes from and it doesn't bother her a bit. She says she wants to "grow cows so i can eat them" and "catch fishes so we can eat them." She stood right next to dad as this fish was scaled and filleted. Nothing squeamish about it to her. On one hand, im rather proud. Because I know I would have been running and squealing like a sissy. On the other hand, I said, maybe daddy is raising a sociopath. lol. I can see the interviews now......"Well it all started this one spring day when my dad took me fishing. We brought the fish home and I watched him scale and fillet the fish. I waited in anticipation of the moment I would get to eat this fish we had just caught....." LOL. And that's what happened. As soon as the fish was filleted, in the frying pan he went. I got the joys of cooking said stinky fish. Blah. Me and fresh fish don't get along so well. I have no problems going to a reputable restaurant and ordering fish and chips, when it is specified that said fish is cod, beer battered and deep fried. But, I cannot stomach the thought of eating fish in any other fashion. I just can't do it. Can't get past the thought, smell nor the sight. NO thank you. But, i cooked up this fish fillet (which they only got 2 pieces out of) and Makenneh and daddy sat at the table and ate it. They both loved it.
Last night we had some family over and had a bon fire. It was nice. That's one thing I love about the warmer weather. We made smores, had a few drinks and lots of laughs.

Today has mostly been spent cleaning, doing laundry....the unfun stuff. But, we did manage to clean out some of this computer room yesterday. It is so much more organized and roomier. My mom is a pack rat. she throws very little away. It gets crowded quick, fast and in a hurry. So, we did some reorganizing and cleared it up quite a bit. I can breath in here now and even swivel the desk chair. Imagine that!

Well, it's time to start dinner and seems how my parents aren't home yet, I can make something without consulting fat grams and sodium levels and such. So, I am making spaghetti! Haven't had it in quite awhile.

H0pe everyone has a great week!

Friday, April 18, 2008

Semester wind down

Two weeks left this semester. I won't be going for spring or summer, this year, so I will be done until fall. I already have my financial aid filed, so that is out of the way. I am a bit more than half done with my final paper for my philosophy of ethics class. This class has been quite different. We only had two assignments the entire semester, each worth 25% of our grade. The last one is due on Monday. I hate writing these things, because he really has given us no instruction as to how to write them, just told us to write them. And writing a philosophy paper is different than writing a regular English paper. Hopefully I will do good on it.

Last night Sebastian woke up crying and couldn't go back to sleep. When he did finally nod off, he would have random fits of crying throughout the night. I slept with him, hoping it would help. I don't know what was wrong with him. He seemed to have a stuffy nose and i think it was making it difficult for him to lay down and breath. So, he would wake up, sit up, move all around, trying to get comfortable and still be able to breath. He did a tad better after I put a second pillow under his head. I hope tonight is much better.

I don't know if I've mentioned this or not, but it has been a challenge to cook dinner around here. Well, the cooking part isn't so bad. It's the planning dinner that sucks. My dad is on a low fat, low sodium, low carb, low sugar diet. Nothing in a box or out of a can. Nothing just quick and easy..well I have found a couple recipes that work that are quick and easy. but, it forces me to think outside the regular stuff...spaghetti, unless I make it homemade, is out...no Ragu here. To add to the problem, dad doesn't like repetition. He likes things to be mixed up. And he has always been more a meat and potato guy. Do not make him a meal sans meat. lol. Tonight I made chicken fajita salad. WE had some chicken fajita meat in freezer, i cooked it up and put it atop a bunch of leafy greens. He wasn't overly impressed. His exact words were, "this is dinner?" lol. Yep, pa, that is dinner. They are going up north this weekend, so you can bet we are gonna have us some pizza, or tacos or something that we can't normally have. Just not sure what yet. ah, actually, i just remembered Jeremy wanted hamburgers on the grill. So, there it is.

Yeah, my life is quite mundane. OH, but i have a picture to share. This is the kinda picture you save to put on their picture board for their graduation open house!!! the kind that embarrass them to tears! HE had just gotten out of the shower and the phone rang. It was for me. He really wanted to talk. He was my shadow, reaching out for the phone, repeating, I wanna talk. So, i handed him the phone and he goes off, wandering around the house, talking on the phone, without a stitch of clothing. I had to snap a picture!
Nevermind the clutter in the background...that would be the mountain of shoes and boots and flip flops and such that rest near the door. Along with the blue bench my dad made that has become a catch all....lol.

Anyway, on that note, I am gonna go. Will be ready for bed soon!

have a great weekend

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Lucky

We may be seeing tough times right now, but I can't help but feel a sense of happiness. I think that I may have actually finally found true happiness within the past year. It's so hard to explain. I still have my down times, but deep inside, I have an inner peace. Life is good. I have so much to be thankful for and I appreciate it. really appreciate it.

Tonight I was thinking about how nice it is that Jeremy gets the kids to bed almost every night. They go to bed so easily for him. I come home from school to peace and quiet. Then, he gets up with them in the morning. How glorious is that? I am quite spoiled. Very lucky.

I am having a bit of anxiety as we are going to be short on money until he gets a job. The interview he went to went good but they didn't call back. I told him he needed to call them, but of course, it was almost amidst his grandma dying and none of us were on the ball with anything, going days without sleep and the emotional and physical exhaustion that accompanied the whole experience.

Anyway, just wanted to check in. I haven't been much in the mood to blog...mostly because by the time I get home from school, do some homework/studying or wait for my turn on the pc, I am too tired to put together any coherent thoughts. So, i usually decide to skip it.

Well, take care!

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Five years

It's technically past midnight, but I don't count a day as over until I have gone to bed.

Five years ago today, at this moment, I was waiting to be transferred to my room after having had Makenneh. She was born at 10:31pm on April 14th, 2003. I cannot believe how fast time has flown. I held her today and asked her, "weren't you just a baby yesterday?" To which she replied, "NO, mom, I was 4!" LOL. Right, right. But, it sure seems like only yesterday. In some regards. At some times, it feels like it has taken a lifetime to get to this point.

She had a royal celebration this year. We did a combined bday party on Seb's bday, then she had her party for her friends yesterday at the pizza/game place and then today she took in cookies and such for her class. I am all birthdayed out. But she had a great time as did everyone who came to the party yesterday. Now, if only I could find how we freeze time. LOL. She is going to be off to college before I know it.

I have been so exhausted, I haven't been making it on the computer at all. Tonight I had to get some homework done. I got two papers done and so I think I deserve some fun time on here. Im currently uploading pics and as soon as I get it done, provided they all work, I will try to get them posted. I am not guaranteeing anything because my eyes are getting heavier by the minute. It has been a very long tiresome week and I am looking forward to a time when I can relax. I only have two more weeks of school and then Im done with this semester. I can't believe it. SEe, time just flies. The only bad thing is, I didn't sign up for spring or summer classes, so i have no idea what im going to do with myself. I might see about a part time summer job. But it will depend on a few other factors. Jeremy never heard back from the place he interviewed with last week. Bummer. He said he figured he wouldn't get it, just because he would sooo love to have it. Pessimistic or what?

As always, the end of the semester is hectic and full of last minute assignments to get done. My main focus now is studying for my psych test that is on thurs and also working on my philosophy paper. once those are done, it will be smooth sailing.

Well from the looks of it, my pics aren't going upload. I have no idea why not.

Anyway, hopefully i will back into blogging more often. It is therapeutic and i miss it.

WEll, everyone have a great night and HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABY GIRL!

Thursday, April 10, 2008

A Purpose Under Heaven

The past few days have been extremely difficult. I got a call on Tuesday morning from my mother in law. She called to tell us that Grandma was in the hospital and not doing well and we needed to come. Jeremy was at his interview, so I had to wait for him to get home. He got home around 11am and we headed up to the hospital. When we got there, the site of gma in that hospital bed told it all. I knew that she would never be coming home again. This was it. We spent all tuesday and Wednesday at the hospital. Jeremy wouldn't go in the room but a few times, because he couldn't stand to watch her suffer. They were giving her meds to up her blood pressure and they were withholding pain medicine all so that the oldest son could make it up here in time from Georgia. It upset Jeremy that they would allow her to lay in pain while we waited. The one time yesterday that we went in her room, Jeremy leaned over and kissed her and told her he loved her and then just broke down...he said he had to get out of the room, he couldn't do it. couldn't watch her suffer like that. He told me how selfish he thought it was. And it was. I can understand both sides of it, because if it were my mother, I would want to be there too. But at the same time, we have the memory of watching her writhe in pain.
We stayed up at the hospital overnight and I ran on no sleep for the two days. By the time night came last night, I was mentally and physically exhausted. But, i told Jeremy we could stay or go, whatever he wanted to do. He chose to come home. WE were home about 45 mins, had just gotten into bed when the phone rang. And I knew, as soon as it did, who was calling and what they would say. Grandma passed away peacefully last night. She was getting the pain meds and the hospital staff had taken her off the meds that were keeping her blood pressure up high enough. She was 73 years old. Ironically, last night, we were standing outside and Jeremy was looking up at the stars, just taking them in. And, as it turns out, that was about the time that grandma passed away. We will all miss her, but she isn't suffering now. She is at peace, she is with the Lord and she has great things waiting for her up there, including her son who was still born, 3o yrs ago and her husband who passed about ten years ago.

My heart breaks for Jeremy because I have been where he is at. It is very painful and sad. I know there is nothing I can do to make it better, but I know that just by me being there, holding him, letting him cry, sitting back and letting him do what he needs to do..that all helps. I keep thinking of this country song....i have to look it up because it has been in my head. But it goes like this:
I took this same walk with my old man, boy, I've been in your shoes.
You can't hold back the hands of time, it's just something you've got to do
so dry your eyes, i understand just what you're going through....

I don't know who sings it though.

Anyway, i feel like I am wasting time. I feel absolutely beside myself these days. I am going to get off here and work on some homework or something. Please keep the family in your thoughts and prayers, as they will need the strength and comfort to get through.

Saturday, April 05, 2008

Daddy/Daughter time

Makenneh and Jeremy are out fishing right now. She was so excited to go. She told us she was going to catch a big, pretty fish for us to eat. I didn't have the heart to tell her I am not interested in eating fish. The only time i eat it is when it's at a restaurant, deep fried, beer battered, cod. Other than that, I am not at all interested.

I went for an appeal on the student loan denial. I had to meet with the director of financial aid. guess what? He overturned the decision and approved my loan! I walked out of there feeling so damn proud! I then went next door to advising and spoke with an advisor (who also happens to be one of my instructors) and I got some info on my career choices and laying out a plan for me. I have to get 62 credits, I have 23, not counting what I earn this semester. I have all but 2 of my general education requirements and now I just have to focus on my social work classes.

Well, mom and I are getting ready to head to the store. Just wanted to stop in. I get too busy these days.

It's supposed to be 60 degrees today! MMMMM warmer weather! Hope everyone is enjoying spring!

Tuesday, April 01, 2008

I'm back

And it feels good. Although, I must say that I did quite well without the Internet and wasn't overly anxious to get it back. We had a struggle getting it hooked up. I have complained before about this phone company and you can add this to my laundry list of complaints regarding centurytel. They suck to be blunt about it. The Internet was supposed to be on Friday. Yeah, well come Friday, we didn't even have a phone line anymore. Finally, in the afternoon, i use my cell to call the house phone and low and behold some stranger answers the phone. They crossed our phone lines and the ppl that had this phone number last were getting our service. I had to go rounds with the phone co. bc we needed the line back. We were dealing with a medical situation and were awaiting a very important phone call. I will get to that in a min. I'm trying to avoid chasing rabbits, with so much to say. Anyway, finally, on Saturday they got the phone turned back on. Only after I repeatedly insisted that it must be restored and why must they make it so damn difficult. But, still we had no Internet. So, i call them back again and of course, they can't have someone out til Monday by 5pm. This is Saturday evening that i call. Oh well, no big deal, other than it is frustrating that they can't get this right. Well, Monday comes and goes and still no Internet. I call back this morning and let them know that i am less than pleased with this whole fiasco. Needless to say, the net was on this afternoon. WOOHOO. I still think i might call them and request a discount for this month's services because the whole thing stinks, horribly.

Ok, back to the medical situation. First off, dad was home sick almost all week following Easter. Well, he has always had trouble with low blood sugar and if he eats a lot of sugar in a short amount of time, he becomes very ill and ornery. Mom wrote it off as an abundance of goodies over the holiday. Well, Friday, dad decides he has to go to work. (he did make it in one day earlier in the week). He gets in car to leave for work, realizes the trash needed to go out. I guess he was on the road already and turned around to come home and do that. Well, he got the trash out and then go to the car just in time to pass out. The car was still running. He came to at one point and realized that he needed to shut the car off. He shut it off and was back out. Well, he doesn't want smoking in the house, but sometimes, while he is at work, my mom will smoke inside. Jeremy was outside smoking and comes in the house to find my mom smoking inside. It's 6am. He asks her what she is doing, telling her my dad was still home. She didn't believe him bc his lunch pail was gone from its place on the counter. Jeremy told her to come see that the car was still in driveway. She say the car and shut the door and just wanted to collapse. She was so afraid to go to the car because she had no idea what she would find. Well, she gets to the car and opens the door and it startles my dad. He made it inside but not without stumbling all over. He refused to let her call and ambulance, insisting that he didn't "pass out", just dozed off. Well, call it what you want, but he typically leaves for work around 430am so he was out in the car, sleeping/passed out, for the better portion of an hour and a half. She calls the doctor and leaves a message on his answering service. Normally he calls right back. However, he wasn't returning the call. All this took place while I was still sleeping. I get up, hear what has been going on and i break down crying. I couldn't help but think how close I was to losing my dad. I get my wits about me and tell mom to call again bc i know the doctor would have called by now. Finally get through and they get cut off. This happened about 3 times. Finally was told to bring him in. His sugar was 99...so good. Doc ordered a stress test STAT and that's the phone call we were waiting on. Shortly after that phone call to doc is when the phone went out. no service at all. Anyway, dad was put on low salt diet and told to take it easy until all the test results come back. He also put dad out of work for 2 weeks. He is going stir crazy. He went for the blood work yesterday and stress test today. They told him the test seemed to go well. Hard to say what the problem is. Mom is wondering if it isn't from his sleep apnea. He quits breathing about every 3 breaths through the night. Yes, he breaths 3 times, stops, breaths 3 times, stops. Crazy.

So, that's that excitement. Sunday we had the family bday party. It went well. They devoured the food and the kids got tons of presents...it was crazy. I used my aunt's camera to take pics bc mine just plain sucks and isn't worth bothering with. I will have to see about uploading them.

In two weeks, we are having Makenneh's bday party for her friends/kids at the pizza fun place. I called and reserved some tables and we are good to go. I'm kinda excited. We will do something similar for Sebastian's 5th bday.

Makenneh is on spring break this week. Nice to have a break from getting her to and from bus stop.

Otherwise, everything is going a lot smoother here than i had thought it would. The kids transitioned nicely, they are going to bed quite easily and have been pretty well behaved. Jeremy and I are surviving..lol.

Not much in way of job. They are building a new store up here...discount home depot if you will...lol. Jeremy is supposed to ride with my aunt and maybe mom up to apply. The crazy thing is you have to drive to their other store, which is about an hour away, to apply. They should do things like walmart did. Was much easier.

I am so not worrying about things. I have actually been doing well with my stress level. I just have a strange feeling of calmness. I do get irritable at times...but not stressed about the big picture. God has a plan. I have faith that it will all work out.

I go Friday to dispute my loan denial. They denied me bc of those 2 semesters 9 yrs ago....i appealed bc i had completed a recent semester where i met all the requirements. they denied it saying the past semester didn't count. I argued that if a past semester doesn't count, how am i ever to have a semester count..as they are all "past" if they happened prior to me applying. So, now i get to appeal the decision to the head honcho in the financial aid department. I go on Friday to do that. I have a good feeling and hopefully he understands where I am coming from, sees my accomplishments and my determination and decides to overturn the decision.

Well, i have typed quite a bit. Sure there is plenty more to type, but i have gotten into the habit of going to bed earlier than i used to. Mostly out of sheer boredom, I'm sure. LOL.

Glad to be back...see ya around